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How to Support

 

When talking to the child/youth about bullying consider the following:

How can I help the child stay safe?
Does the child need help to stop bullying others?
What information do I need?
Who has the responsibility to take action?
Where can I go for more help?

 

Gather information regarding the bullying situation:

  • Who is doing it?
  • What else happened?
  • Has this person done it before?
  • What have you tried already?
  • Is this a bullying situation?
  • Has this happened more than once?
  • Do you feel powerless?
  • Are you being hurt with words or actions?
  • Can you work it out yourself

Stay Safe

  • Can you leave the situation safely?
  • Can you safely stay away from the bully?

Take Stand

  • Staying calm
  • Keeping a strong posture
  • Using an assertive voice

Build Connections.

  • With friends, peers or adults
  • Do we need to tell another adult?
  • Keep telling until it stops.

Acknowledge the Incident

  • You were right to tell me.
  • I’m sorry this happened to you.
  • Can I help?
  • Thank you for telling me.

Click Here for a Safety Plan Template

Safety Planning for those Being Bullied

The responsibility to protect children from all forms of abuse, including bullying, is the responsibility of parents, teachers, and other adults in the community. It takes a lot of courage for a youth to report a bullying situation. Safety planning is an important part of keeping children and youth safe. Everyone deserves a healthy, safe and supportive environment. Children and youth should be part of the safety planning process. The plan should be fair, respectful and action-oriented.

Safe Places

Identify places you feel safe at the location you are being bullied (home, school, organization, community space)
Identify places where you feel unsafe at the location you are being bullied

Safe Strategies

Identify strategies you can use to stay safe at the location you are being bullied
(Take a stand, avoid certain situations, avoid certain people, build connections with others etc)

Safe People and support networks

Identify safe and trusted people at the location you are being bullied

Identify other supports and resources

Identify actions required  in detail and the person responsible for those action

Safety Planning for those Engaging in Bullying

  • In some cases you might need to develop a safety plan to protect other children and youth:
    • Supervision of  child/youth during free times
    • Designate play/hang-out areas
    • Behaviour management strategies
    • A plan for involving the child/youth in positive activities with peers
  • Review and update plan

*Safety plan review in order to make sure plan is working or needs to be modify

*Safety Plans need to be fair and respectful to all parties involved.

Include others if

The child has experienced a serious threat against them
The child is threatening a violent retaliation
The child is self-injuring or is talking about suicide
The child has experienced a violent act
If you are afraid for the child’s safety, emotional or physical
if the child has experienced serious harm, emotionally, socially, or otherwise

Child, Youth, and Family Crisis Line of Eastern Ontario:

613-260-2360 (24/7)

Crossroads:

613-723-1623 │ crossroadschildren.ca

Youth Services Bureau:

613-260-2360 │ ysb.on.ca

CHEO’s YouthNet:

613-738-3915 │ youthnet.on.ca

Centre psychosocial:

613-789-2240 │ centrepsychosocial.ca

Parents’ Lifelines of Eastern Ontario:

613-321-3211 │ www.pleo.on.ca

Ottawa Public Health:

613-580-6744 │ parentinginottawa.caetreparentaottawa.ca

* Parents can also contact their child’s school and/or school board to determine appropriate next steps:

Ottawa Carleton District School Board

Ottawa Catholic School Board

Conseil des écoles publiques de l’Est de l’Ontario

Conseil des Écoles Catholique du Centre-Est

Family Services (LGBTTQ+ Around the Rainbow)

familyservicesottawa.org

CHEO’S Gender Diversity Clinic

cheo.on.ca/en/genderidentity

Centretown CHC (Mental Health Counselling Program for LGBTTQ+ youth ages 12-25)

centretownchc.org

Kind

kindspace.ca

PFLAG (Support for Parents of LGBTTQ youth)

pflagcanada.ca